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Cross posted TRIGGER warning: this post discusses rape. “Women should not be walking home alone in hours of darkness. You just have such vulnerability then.” Source: Attack prompts police warning So how, pray tell, is a woman to get home then? By teleporting? The woman who was assaulted had just walked a friend home, and [...]
Things we noticed around the interwebs this week. Something pretty, and very clever: It’s Just Moonplay. From Scientific American, another round-up of research on pornography that seems to indicate that it’s not as problematic as it’s been made out to be. It turns out that among porn viewers, the amount of porn each subject consumed [...]
Cross posted You have heard, no doubt, the saying that the personal is the political. Based on his own experiences within a marriage in which we struggle against convention to split things equally, my husband has developed his own, expanded version of this motto. As he would state it, “The school drop-off is the political, [...]
*Trigger Warnings for sexual assault and sexual harassment* This is an article about an attack on a woman in Massey University Wellington. Massey Wellington was my home both socially, professionally and academically for 3 years while I completed my degree. I worked on campus in the Student’s Association, I partied on the campus with my [...]
Dear sub-editors, and people who talk to the media, We need to have a conversation. Because you need to start being really, really careful about how you speak, and write, and what you publish. Because if I read another sentence like this, I am going to throw something through a window, and then sit in [...]
I feel a touch guilty every time I see someone has found this site by searching for “porn Tuesday”. Still happens occasionally. So, a Tuesday, and a post with some porn in it. Links are, entirely, NSFW. The trailer for Erika Lust’s new film, Cabaret Desire, is out. Caution: trigger warning for sexual assault (one [...]
Cross posted I’ve been reflecting on two posts recently, Jessica Valenti’s column in The Guardian about learning to love her baby, and evil fizz’s response at Feministe, endorsing and resonating with her. Both women had similar experiences of not loving, not being blissed out by motherhood. Both women felt that other women needed to know [...]
Things we liked, or didn’t like, on the internet this week. Running between the continental plates. From Penguin Unearthed, who is travelling the world with her partner and their two lads this year. She’s also writing a fantastic series at her personal blog on the notable women of history that she is coming across in [...]
That bit in our name where it says, The Lady *GARDEN*? We meant it. Cross posted I visited an allotment garden in London a few weeks ago. We have friends who live in central London suburb, not right in town, but only a few tube stops out from the centre. We stayed with them for [...]
Let’s compare and contrast two paragraphs, shall we? A generation ago, it was easier for men and women to understand what constituted rape because the social rules were clearer. Men were supposed to be the ones coming on to women, and women were said to be looking for relationships, not casual sex. But those boundaries [...]
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